As homeschool moms, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing your child’s progress to another. I’m no exception. One day, it had been brought to my attention that I have a child that isn’t perfect.

“Billy’s” (name changed to protect the innocent) handwriting is sloppy, he writes slow and it’s quite an effort for him to write 5 paragraph paper.

At first, I panicked thinking, “How will this child get along in life?” “We’ve got to do some remedial work and FAST!”

Then I witnessed an incident that put it all into perspective.

While my children were at the Dojo, I watched as the instructors worked with the students. No doubt that each of these men could inflict serious damage! Instead, they exhibited kindness, goodness, gentleness, patience and most of all self-control.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.
(Galatians 5:22-23)

Then the students broke off into pairs to work on skills. There was a mix of ages, sizes and experience. I was thrilled to see the older/bigger kids exhibit the same fruit they had been taught.

  • Kindness
  • Goodness
  • Gentleness
  • Patience
  • Self-Control

I watched as “Billy”, the oldest and biggest of the bunch, work with the smallest student . A high-spirited, spunky little girl.

I heard him speak words of encouragement; help her find her footing, and showed patience when she lost her focus.

It was then that I stopped and wondered if it really mattered whether or not these adult instructors had neat handwriting, or could rattle off a 5 paragraph paper.

What I do know is that they are an example of Godly fruit and instruction which in turn enabled the students to exhibit the same fruit to others.

I concluded that while neat handwriting and writing skills can be worked on, it’s really not as important as character.

So, while “Billy” may not be perfect, it’s more important to continue on the quest we’ve started and concentrate on what really matters. Character and his relationship with God!

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